I have been writing many posts about sex and how to make the most out of it, so that both parties can have an enjoyable time. However, I always have something new to say on the topic. There are a few techniques that one can apply when it comes to spicing up the sex life.
For instance, have a date night with your partner, just like you did at the beginning of the relationship. Schedule the time and the location beforehand, so both of you can be excited for the upcoming event together. You may even book a hotel room to provide a new space. That helps a lot! At home everyone tends to do their own things, mindlessly surfing the internet, or working until late night. If you really take the time to go out with your partner it helps you to give your full attention to each other. Go for a nice dinner and pamper each other afterwards. Make yourself pretty for the other and really try your best to remain attractive for one another. You may use the time to talk and reflect on your relationship. It is rather important to express anything that might bother you, in order to find solution for the matter.
Tell your partner that he/she is still very sexy and you find her/him attractive. It sounds silly, but the given word has a powerful effect and can reassure your partner about your feelings.
Keep your relationship fresh and exciting by doing some role games. In my own practice, I find role games very exciting and sexy. In a different role I can really let myself go and just enjoy the moment. You can try to play a scenario where each of you have their own role, it can be dominant and submissive roles, or simply playing a scene which eventually turns into wild and passionate sex. Be experimental and try our different things to see which one turns you on the most. One thing is important here: be open minded and playful! Nobody else is watching so why not just let yourself go and have fun with the game?
Visit a sex shop together to find new exciting sex toys to bring fresh breeze into your love life. Let the shop assistant show you what is the latest trend in the erotic world. You mustn’t be shy, but if you are, then there are plenty of websites where you can order a suitable toy. Try some delicious essential oils or massage oils to give extra attention to your partner. Everybody loves some loving attention and a good massage.
Couples who have been together for longer time might even watch adult videos together to get some new inspiration. These pictures will turn you on instantly and will give an extra kick to your sex life.
Last, but not least: keep yourself “young” and healthy by doing exercise regularly and eat the right kind of food. Try to limit your alcohol intake to a minimum as it also has effect on your mood, sex-drive and overall health. There are great number of studies out there to prove it. In men, regular exercise appears to be a natural Viagra. It’s associated with a lower risk of erectile problems. In one study, sedentary middle-aged men assigned to participate in a vigorous exercise program for nine months reported more frequent sexual activity, improved sexual function, and greater satisfaction. Those whose fitness levels increased most saw the biggest improvements in their sex lives. Increased blood flow helps explain why exercise leads to better sexual function in both men and women. An enhanced self-image from exercise may play a role too. Men and women who exercise may be more likely to feel sexually desirable, which can lead to better sex. So can greater strength, flexibility, and stamina that result from exercise. Having said that I encourage everyone to get off the couch and start being active in order to (re)gain that awesome sex life.
Love,
Eline
